I work with adults navigating relationship difficulties from an individual perspective. That means I work with one person at a time, not couples. The focus is on understanding your patterns, your attachments, and your choices, so that whatever happens with the other people in your life, you have more clarity about yourself.
What I work with
- Romantic relationships that keep ending the same way, or that you can't quite leave
- Family dynamics, parents, siblings, in-laws, the inherited patterns that show up regardless of your best intentions
- Friendships that feel one-sided, draining, or that you've outgrown
- Conflict, communication breakdown, the same arguments on repeat
- Difficulty trusting, difficulty letting people close, difficulty being alone
- Attachment patterns, anxious, avoidant, fearful, and how they shape what you choose and tolerate
- Recovering from a significant relationship ending, infidelity, or betrayal
- Difficulty setting boundaries, or boundaries that feel like walls
How I work with relationship difficulties
The work usually has two layers. The first is what's happening now, the specific situation, the people, the dynamics. The second is the deeper pattern, why this kind of thing keeps showing up, what role you tend to play, what you're drawn to and what you avoid.
Attachment work can be central. The ways we learned to relate, very early in life, often shape our adult relationships in ways that are invisible until they're named. Understanding your attachment style, and where it came from, can shift a lot.
Pattern recognition. Once you can see your own pattern, you have a choice. Until then, the pattern runs you. Therapy is partly the work of bringing patterns into view without judgment.
Communication and conflict. We work on practical skills, how to have hard conversations, how to listen without defending, how to express what you need. These are learnable.
Self-knowledge. A lot of relationship work is really self work. The more clearly you understand yourself, what you want, what you can offer, what you can't, the better your relationships tend to go.
What therapy with me looks like
We start with what's most pressing, the specific situation that brought you in. From there, the work usually broadens. You might come in to talk about your partner and find yourself talking about your father. That's not derailment; that's how relationship work tends to move.
I bring honesty and challenge alongside support. If I notice a pattern, I'll name it. If something doesn't add up, I'll say so. The goal isn't to be told you're right, it's to see yourself more clearly.